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Keeping your word.keeping your word on tv

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 4: Word – day 1.

So today we’re talking about ‘keeping your word’ – what does that mean?
Let me tell you about a man who appeared on live mainstream television in his underwear!
Now, let me say right away that I’m not a soccer fan myself.
No Ma’m, Not Me!
Many People, however, love it and in some archaic tribal throwback to prehistoric times it can be very ‘them and us’ between teams.
Fans even more so – almost like going into battle against an enemy – though mostly friendly.
Anyway.
Born in the City of Leicester in 1960 Gary Lineker played 194 games for his local team Leicester City, scoring a total of 95 goals for them in his seven years as a profesional player at the club. He then moved on to play for Everton, Barcelona, Tottenham Hotspur and a Japanese Team called Nagoya Grampus Eight – before retiring in 1994.
He also pulled on the white shirt of England a total of 80 times, scoring 48 goals for his country.
He is still England’s top goal scorer at the World Cup with 10 goals to his name.
The point is he had a lot of credibility and a large following and so…
After retirement he became a TV presenter with the BBC – most notably presenting their flagship soccer show ‘Match of the Day’ (MOTD).
But he never lost his support for his beloved Leicester City.
Poor Leicester, they always tried – they were the most earnest triers out there – never won a thing though. Every season between August and May the English league operates and poor old Leicester City never won a thing.
On Monday 14th of December 2015 (just halfway through the season) Leicester City beat Chelsea to go top of the League.
Lineker sent out a tweet:-
“YES! If Leicester win the @premierleague I’ll do the first MOTD of next season in just my undies”
9:54Pm 14 Dec 2015.
That year, for the first time in it’s long history Leicester actually won something!
Yes, they were still at the top of the league at the end of the season meaning they had won the championship.
So this week is about keeping your word.
and Lineker did just that; presenting the first show of the new season in his undies.
Did he look foolish? Yes.
Did he feel humiliated? Yes.
Did he gain the love and respect of millions of people? Yes.
You see, by keeping his word he showed the world that looking foolish and feeling humiliated weren’t as important to him as keeping his word and by doing what he said he would do when he said he would do it raised his profile and esteem.
Look for ways this week to keep your word:
if you say you will do something, make sure it gets done.
if you say you will be somewhere at a certain time, be there.
avoid the temptation of falling into the ‘everybody does it’ excusitis.
IMPORTANT BIT: you do what you say you will do when you say you will do it because; if you don’t, you will know it.
think about that.
People tell me they want to raise their self esteem and be happier but have this laissez faire attitude to things – turn up when they want and do something late they said they would do.
People respect people who keep their word, and you should practice it too, but only for your own sake.
YOU will know it

This article is one of a series sent out daily.

The aim is to build confidence and self esteem using a method devised by Benjamin Franklin to build his own character and I think most people know the result of his efforts.

He Called it ‘The 13 Virtues’.

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Homing in on the one Goal

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 6.
As you will know by now this week is about planning, – you see what we’re trying to achieve here is CLARITY.
What we’re trying to avoid is:
“I used to be indecisive but now I’m not so sure” – Boscoe Pertwee.
We’re trying to eliminate indecision ‘should I have the red one or the blue one’ ‘tea? or coffee?’ ‘this direction or that direction’.
Indecision! everywhere! – this, incidentally is a big contributor to self confidence and esteem issues.
Coming back to list of goals; you should have been able to eliminate all but your top 2 goals and laid out your positive/plus negative/minus grid.
if you need a template for that you can download one here.
What you need to do is to put down all of the positive things about obtaining this goal and all the negative things that are about getting this goal.
Once you have done this you should have items in all 4 columns.
What you need to look for is ways to eliminate something on one side with another.
for instance; say your decision is about a new job in a nearby town but you have no transport (negative) but then the job comes with a car as an added benefit. (positive) one cancels out the other.
you need to carefully go through your list and eliminate as much as possible and only leave things behind that are ‘must haves’ not only ‘wishes’ if you can’t find a way to cancel something it must stay, don’t just eliminate things because you don’t like or want them, they are facts and unless considered could mean that your whole goal could fail, and no-one wants that.
Remember your two goals may be very different, so this elimination stage is only simplifying the decision.
Tomorrow I’ll show you how to use what is left to decide which will be your goal – exciting isn’t it?

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Weigh the positives and negatives for goal setting

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 7.
Dear Friend
The Average Pencil can write about 45,000 words or draw a straight line 56Km Long it can also be sharpened about seventeen times.
Well, you’ve probably used at least half a pencil with all the hard work you’ve been doing this week and even if you’ve only been following this in your ‘mind’ I want to acknowlege that it’s not easy and by coming this far you have done extremely well – you’ve kinda proved to yourself you can do it – and I feel that’s important. I’m excited for you!
Let’s move on, again this is a little complicated – sorry, but bear with me on this, it is the final step.
Are you familiar with negative numbers?
Imagine a horizontal line with -100 to the extreme left and +100 to the extreme right with 0 in the middle.
The 0 represents neutrality – something that doesn’t matter.
The -100 represents a big NO!
I’m sure you’re waaay ahead of me here but then the +100 is a big YES!
Go through the remaining items on your lists and ask yourself how big a yes or no is this thing.
if it’s a positive thing give it a + number from 0 to 100 according to how strongly positive you feel it is
for instance, in a new job; more pay might be an 80.
do the same for the negative side remember to put the – next to the negative numbers.
again for our new job; less annual leave might be -60
Next: add together all the positive numbers and all the negative numbers – then take the negative one from the positive one.
you might end up with numbers like positive: 460 negative: -220
your final figure for that particular goal would then be 460-220 = 240
Maybe your other goal might be; positive:380 negative:-260 = 120
Clearly here the first goal is the stronger one and this would be your choice.
You can always come back to the other goals on your list once you’ve completed this one.
VERY IMPORTANT BIT; Take MASSIVE ACTION on this goal, immediately.
Ever pushed a car? pretty hard to begin with isn’t it? but once you get it rolling – much easier.
Overcome the resistance of inertia and dive deeply into making your goal happen.
Here’s a few examples:
Say your goal is to lose weight; go through your cupboards and fridge and give away all the ‘bad’ foods you have, join a gym/fitness group/slimming club – somewhere that will encourage you to move your body more that also has people with a similar goal to yours – preferably connected to a qualified trainer who can help you. tell everyone you’re serious about losing weight and ask them to help you.
say you want to save money; sell everything you haven’t used in the past 6 months, cancel any subscriptions that are unnecessary, cut up your credit cards – look for ways to economise on your household bills – get the rest of your family to ‘buy in’ to the scheme – make it a game. Consult a financial advisor.
If you want a new job – smarten yourself up, update your CV and refresh your skills. Find out every company in your area that employs people with your skills – learn about them, discover ways you can bring VALUE to them – call them up – be ENTHUSIASTIC – GO and GET YOUR JOB don’t wait for it to come to you.
ok, we’ve covered a lot of ground this week and it’s time to wrap it up – thank you for staying the course and I truly hope this week makes all the difference to you, you should now have a ‘mission’ to focus on, everthing else in the Virtues hinges on this key factor.
Next week is cornered on something most people are a little elastic with and that is ‘Keeping your Word’ but mastering this skill raises the way you are seen as well as the way you see yourself.

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Your shot at the stars – the importance of goals.

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 5.

On Average the blue-banded bee, head bangs flowers at the rate of 350 times a second.

I mention this because although this seems random and chaotic it is with one specific goal in mind.

Yes even the humble bee has a goal – to obtain pollen.

It seems to me that we’ve been so deep into our planning phase that we could use a little perspective on why it is so important.

Allow me to illustrate with a personal story:

When I was younger I was fortunate enough to earn a place at University studying Electrical and Electronic Engineering.

I was desparate to change my status from ‘unskilled’ to ‘skilled’ worker – I had spent too many long depressing days working in a factory – arriving in darkness and leaving in darkness.

I wanted a job that would involve different situations and different places.

As part of the course I was on, Students were expected to produce a ‘project’ for their final year.

It should be something they could demonstrate their knowlege and skills with and would make up a very large proportion of their final grade for the year.

Not only that but these projects were to be shown as part of an ‘open’ day where prospective employers could be invited along to see the students work.

We all knew this because they kinda made a big thing of it – I guess it made them look good too – having students ‘snapped’ up even before graduation!

This, I recognised, was the opportunity I had been looking for – my ticket to a better job and increased prospects.

My only problem was that at this open day would be showing the work of 80 other students – I would really have to stand out.

I resolved to produce the very best project I could and then invite prospective employers along to the open day.

If I’m honest I chose a project that on the face of it, was far too complex. I should have listened to my tutor and everyone else who said that it was ‘too much’.

But I didn’t – sometimes you have to be a stubborn old fool.

I feel it would be unfair of me to explain too much detail about this project suffice to say that it was to decode and display weather satellite pictures. – just like you see on the TV weather show.

I had just one year. – gulp.

But I wasn’t going to let that stop me: for that entire year, I lived, breathed and swam in satellites – every moment I had I was doing something towards ‘the project’ – I always had in my mind; my Goal – this new job – this new life. – I asked for help from everybody I could find to talk to me about it.

Without this burning desire – this mission – this ‘thing I had to do’ my project would probably have looked a bit like the other 98% on that project day – a jumble of wires and a flashing light. – I daresay that this reflected on the amount of planning and time they devoted to their projects, but in all other respects they were every bit as clever and qualified as I was.

Not only did my project give me a distinction in my grades I also got 3 job offers right off the bat and I also won the project prize for the entire year.

I hope you can see the power and necessity of having a ‘definiteness of purpose’ a ‘mission’ a ‘goal’ for YOURSELF – you will be ASTOUNDED at what you can achieve with such power of focus – get after it my friend.

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Use Smart goals

Where we are: 2017 - cycle 2 - Week 3: Order - day 4.

"If I had 60 minutes to cut down a tree, I would spend 40 minutes sharpening the ax and 20 minutes cutting it down."

This is Attributed to Abraham Lincoln, but only appears after 1960 so it's unlikely to be Lincoln.

The point is that; in planning - in refining our purpose and focussing on it; we can take a more direct route and acheive our goal in a much shorter time with less effort.

So, you have your goals list, and you've scored each item.

you can easily eliminate 80% of the items on the list.

Just select your top 2 (or 3 if it's really close).

The goal we select should follow the 'S.M.A.R.T' rules. I guess you may not know what these are so here's a quick rundown.

S = Specific, the goal should be specific like 'I have x job' or 'I earn xx'
M = Measurable, the goal should be measurable, it's no use having a goal of 'being loved more' or 'looking younger' because these are intangible things.
A = Attainable, is it a realistic goal? are you beyond yourself.
R = Relevant, is this goal relevant to you? or is this someone-else's goal? it has to be your goal not one someone else would like you to have.
T = Time-bound, is there a clear time you want to acheive this goal by? eg I want to lose xxx lbs/kg in 1 year.

for instance a goal might be "In 28 weeks I will have lost 28lbs of weight."

Research shows that setting goals that follow the SMART rules have a much higher chance of succeeding.

Notice also that it is written as if the goal was already acheived.

let's break it down:

It's specific (28lbs in 28 weeks).
It's Measurable (weight).
It's Attainable (if you have 28 lbs of excess weight to lose then it's possible).
It's Relevant (only YOU reap the benefit)
It's Time bound (28 weeks).

check that your two (or three) follow these guidelines.

Then put them on a piece of paper with four columns.

Put goal one above the first two columns and goal two above the second two columns.
each of the two columns then gets it's own title

PRO | CON

Remember, your two chosen goals should be so close together that you can't decide between them.

Clearly you want to achieve both eventually, but we're trying to select just ONE so it can be focussed on and conquered. before moving on to other goals.

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Use your smart goals

“If I had 60 minutes to cut down a tree, I would spend 40 minutes sharpening the ax and 20 minutes cutting it down.”
This is Attributed to Abraham Lincoln, but only appears after 1960 so it’s unlikely to be Lincoln.

The point is that; in planning – in refining our purpose and focussing on it; we can take a more direct route and acheive our goal in a much shorter time with less effort.

So, you have your list, and you’ve scored each item.

you can easily eliminate 80% of the items on the list.

Just select your top 2 (or 3 if it’s really close)

The goal we select must follow the ‘S.M.A.R.T’ rules. I guess you may not know what these are so here’s a quick rundown.

S = Specific, the goal should be specific like ‘I have x job’ or ‘I earn xx’
M = Measurable, the goal should be measurable, it’s no use having a goal of ‘being loved more’ or ‘looking younger’ because these are intangible things.
A = Attainable, is it a realistic goal? are you beyond yourself.
R = Relevant, is this goal relevant to you? or is this someone-else’s goal? it has to be your goal not one someone else would like you to have.
T = Time-bound, is there a clear time you want to acheive this goal by? eg I want to lose xxx lbs/kg in 1 year.

for instance a goal might be “In 28 weeks I will have lost 28lbs of weight.”

let’s break that down:

It’s specific (28lbs in 28 weeks).
It’s Measurable (weight).
It’s Attainable (if you have 28 lbs of excess weight to lose then it’s possible).
It’s Relevant (only YOU reap the benefit)
It’s Time bound (28 weeks).

check that your two (or three) follow these guidelines.

Then put them on a piece of paper with four columns.

Put goal one above the first two columns and goal two above the second two columns.
each of the two columns then gets it’s own title

PRO | CON

Remember, your two chosen goals should be so close together that you can’t decide between them.

Clearly you want to achieve both eventually, but we’re trying to select just ONE so it can be focussed on and conquered. before moving on to other goals.

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The Power and Glory of Benjamin Franklin

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 3.

Today it’s time to hear from our mentor and guiding light.

Yes, Benjamin Franklin.

Often, people use the quotation “if you fail to plan you plan to fail” which is atributed to Franklin but I’m afraid that someone paraphrased him and the new paraphrased quotation stuck.

What he really said was:-

“By failing to prepare you are preparing to Fail”

Nevertheless there is something of value in both of these quotations however paraphrased they may be and that is – Planning and Preparing.

And, that is where we are today – attempting to determine your ‘mission’ your ‘goal’ your ‘Raison D’etra’

Something, one thing, you can focus all your power, influence and determination on.

So, you’ve done your list? Please tell me you’ve done your list? if you haven’t you may as well unsubscribe now – because without it you are going to stay where you are. And this is not what we’re about here, we want to be the very best happy, successful and fulfilled people we can, not having a mision makes this almost impossible.

What we’re going to do now is to take your list and and go through the items on it one-by-one. giving each a score from 1 – 10.

How you score is up to you but here’s some useful thoughts you can use when deciding.

let’s start with our simple little phrase: I Can, I will, I Do, I DARE!

For each item on your list – consider it, what would this goal mean to you if you had already attained it?

I can, I will, I do, I DARE!

Score each. 1 – 10 – really resist the temptation to give everything high scores, use the whole of the 1 – 10 spectrum, think, meh, or so what, who cares? about this goal.

Take your time – don’t rush it, consider each item on your list.

Once you are done you’ll be taking the top 2 or maybe 3 scoring things these should be the ‘must haves’ that mean the most to you.

Tomorrow I’ll show you how to decide between these last few and decide which of them should be your mission.

Take your time and enjoy it a bit. Go through your list.

Taking the time for yourself to do this will put you Waaaaay ahead of most people and set you on a road to a happier more sucssesful life.

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The Way to your Dreams.

Where we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 2.

Welcome back – so, how did your homework go?

I’m hoping you now have a list of at least 8-10 things.

You don’t? – shame on you – look, I can’t do this for you, I don’t know what your hopes, dreams and fears are, only you know these things.

Ok, I know it’s sticky but here’s an easier way of thinking about it: Have you ever seen the movie ‘Pirates of the Caribbean’ – the first one, Curse of the Black Pearl.

In it there is one of the very cleverest devices – ever.

it is a compass that Captain Jack Sparrow uses to guide him to :-

“the thing you want most in this world”.

it gets terribly confused when Elisabeth Swann comes on the scene and Jack has to exert some self control to regain composure so the compass will work – he’s really after the Treasure of Cortés and can’t afford to be distracted by a beautiful woman.

Now, do YOU have such a compass?

Ha! I thought not. (ok, I’m cheating a bit here because no such compass exists – would that it were).

My point is: if you don’t know what your mission or goal is in life, your “Thing you want most in this world” then how are you going to focus on moving towards it every day?

You’ll end up going from point A to point C to point Z before going back to point A – yes, round in circles.

not getting anywhere, feeling stuck because of it and having low confidence and self esteem.

Does this sound familiar? Let’s break this cruel and vicious cycle and get your sail set to pull you toward “the thing you want most in this world” if you’ve done your list – great – but go over it again. if you’ve NOT done it – you know what to do.

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What is your mission in life

what is your mission in lifeWhere we are: 2017 – cycle 2 – Week 3: Order – day 1.

What is your Mission in Life?

Don’t have one?

I’m not surprised – 99.9% of people, don’t have a mission.

But what do we mean by mission?

A mission is something like:- Building a business, Becoming a famous actor, or author, starting a charity, or a religious centre, or maybe becoming the best in the world at a sport or music or anything you want.

You see it is personal to you, it must mean a great deal to you.

Belief is everything – you must believe that this is your purpose – something you HAVE to get done.

I cannot tell you what your mission should be but I can help you to discover it.

Once you have your mission you will clearly see what activities bring you closer to your goal and what activities are taking your further away from it.

And it doesn’t have to be a world changing thing, it could be something like losing a lot of weight, getting a dream job or buying your own home.

Here’s how you can begin – Do it, you’ll be making a big mistake if you do not.

To Begin:- take some of that silent time we have been practicing the past week and mix it with a bucketful of enthusiasm we have practiced the week before – pace up and down if you have to – it works for me.

Think up every dream, hope and desire you can, Write down EVERYTHING you can think of that would be just the greatest thing if it happened – remember, there are no wrong answers.

Everything, no matter how big or small, just empty your mind.

You don’t have to show this to anyone, just get excited and empty your hopes and dreams onto the paper.

I know it’s a bind having to think and what not but let the enthusiasm carry you through.

Remember! smile – act enthusiastic – imagine you have just won and Olympic gold medal – how does that feel?

Then get that list out on paper – you’ll feel incredibly positive and energised after you do this.

That’s it for today, Please, do the homework, not for me, but for yourself, you’ll only be letting yourself down if you don’t do it.

Tomorrow we’ll talk about how to discover which ‘one’ should be your mission.

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